What do you wish you could do more every day?

I have many wishes, but the wish I wish the most is to spend more quality time with the little people I love the most (my boys) doing absolutely whatever no matter the day. Frankly, I—we are tired of having our time together condensed down to “just weekends” and in reality it’s barely weekends because those are the days I try to catch up on all the things I couldn’t do during the week…

Like, sleep.

I wish I could be present for every milestone, every school event, and every moment we want/need with each other, but I’m busy. More like distracted with being too busy on the hamster wheel chasing a life that always manages to escape me.

What is one word that describes you?

Hmmm how do I wrap such an intricate being into one word?

I don’t think I can but I can however give you one of the many words that can be used to describe me and thats divine.

What was the best compliment you’ve received?

The ones I actually remember and hold dear to me include :

“You have such an infectious personality”

This was said to me by a customer at a movie theater I worked at in my college years.

AND

“You remind me of an angel”

Says my best friend of many years.

My favorite compliments that aren’t really compliments are when I meet someone and their light begins shine a bit brighter.

For example, I went to this restaurant very close to my house once and because the food was really good, I made my way back there. The first time visiting, the cashier didn’t look too happy, he had the saddest look on his face so I thought maybe he was having a bad day as he was kind of cold and dry towards me. I smiled at him as he handed me my food and I said “thank you so much.” He gently smiled back and said “you’re so welcome, have a great day.”

When I visited the second time and he saw me; his face lit up. He smiled at me and goes “I remember you” he proceeded to ask me my name and if I lived nearby. He in turn told me his name and other things about him and his brother who was the cook.

After that encounter I now visit that place often, he knows me by my name and so does the brother. They’re no longer grumpy old men. They’re just Walle and Moe 🙂

What strategies do you use to cope with negative feelings?

First and foremost; acceptance. Emotions and feelings are apart of the human experience, joy and even sadness contribute to our richness as human beings.

While some try, totally controlling one’s emotions is not possible. It is however very possible to influence the feelings surrounding that emotion.

When they arrive I try to be mindful and if I’m able to I will change my environment to influence my feelings and invoke more positive thoughts. As I’ve mentioned in previous posts, nature has a profound way of grounding me.

Negative feelings visit me often so I’ve learned to treat them as they are; visitors. Stoping by to remind me of my humanness.

What activities do you lose yourself in?

As someone who loses themselves in random things every few minutes my favorite things to lose myself in the most are music, nature and articles about random things.

With music, the melodic collaboration of voices and/or instruments touch my soul that takes me different places and I’m overtaken by sensations I can’t explain. I allow my body to enjoy it.

Nature, well nature has a way of connecting me to source like a plug to a socket I feel electrically charged except the charge is bliss and love; I imagine this to be God.

Articles seem to scratch that itch on my brain for dopamine. I get a hit of interesting information and

I fall into a rabbit hole desperately searching for more. I begin to think of all the ways I can apply it or share it; my hyper-focusing abilities are immaculate however I can’t maintain the momentum.

Which animal would you compare yourself to and why?

It depends on the day.

I think most days I’m a dolphin. Dolphins seem as though they’d be the free spirited girlies who walk around being the sunshine of everyone’s day; always smiling if they were human. That’s me 🤭

Other days I’m an Elephant, majestic, ancient, wise, occasionally silly with large personality to match their figure.

Then there are days where I’m a sloth, peacefully existing in my own world hoping no one bothers me for the rest of eternity.

What movies or TV series have you watched more than 5 times?

There’s something about people hurling insults at each other (on t.v) that just cracks me up. Those kinds of movies/tv shows will have me coming back for more belly aching laughs.

The movie that comes to mind that I will watch on repeat is Whiplash. In this movie one of the male leads, J. K Simmons plays the role of a jazz band instructor who is notorious for his foul mouth and insane teaching methods who drives the other male lead, Miles Teller quite literally insane.

I like this movie so much because it’s not stingy with the action or drama. The actors are great, the music is great and it’s relatable to an extent because I myself was once apart of an ensemble and music instructors DO NOT PLAY!

I also love the determination of Miles Teller as he sets out to prove to his instructor just how much he deserves to be one of the greats, no matter what it takes to get there.

Are you superstitious?

Absolutely I am

…But so are you.

Everything is “magic” to those whose perceptions of reality differ; for those who walk a different path in this life.

For those who believe in a God, they will attribute anything that happens beyond standard human capabilities or knowledge to “Him” and for those who don’t, will probably not even think twice about it and say it was “chance” or say nothing at all. For those who believe in something other than such God will say its spirit or some other form of deity. Well I say, everyone is referencing the same thing (an energy) with different names and are just playing favorites at this point.

Which is also perfectly okay. You’re not wrong but neither is the next person.

As for me, you couldn’t convince me I’m not a fairy 🧚 😉

How has a failure, or apparent failure, set you up for later success?

Failure seems to always find me despite my efforts, but success is never too far behind.

The two are never far from each other and I accept them as they are; as they are meant to be. Like other polarities, if failure didn’t exist then how would we know that we are successful? Well, the answer is…we wouldn’t.

What is the last thing you learned?

I recently learned about Dr. Kathleen Martinez and her teams’ quest to find Cleopatras tomb.

The Dominican lawyer turned archaeologist has dedicated several years to uncovering the queens final resting place and it is believed she is close.

I first learned about her story through a now viral tiktok talking about Dr. Martinez, how far her and her team has come and how far they plan to go.

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTLRfj61K/

I have mixed feelings about this story in particular and here are my reasons. Maybe Cleo didn’t want to be found, perhaps that’s why it’s so hard to find her and if that’s the case, shouldn’t she be allowed to you know, rest in peace. But the curious cat/archaeologist wanna be in me is hoping she does because well, it’s CLEOPATRA!