What’s the first impression you want to give people?

I think it’s hard for people to form an opinion of me at first meet. I don’t really fit the description of any particular “type” of person.

But since we are here, why not explore this a little more. As I wonder around my workplace on a Saturday evening asking my coworkers what their first impressions of me were they vary but for the most part they’re fairly consistent.

One coworker says, “I don’t know, I was just showing you sh*t, my opinion came later”

Fair. He’s not a man that thinks very hard or deeply about things and he’s indifferent about most people so I believe him.

Another coworker says “I just thought you were really tall”, she proceeds to go into more detail about the vibe I gave her and she says “you had a very “young” vibe; you were nice and seemed shy.”

Also fair- we met around the time I was still practically new to the company.

I asked another coworker who I am somewhat more close to than others and she says “I thought you were really friendly and sweet, I can tell when people are b*tches and you were NOT that.” 😂

Well, Im glad no one thinks Im a -itch to say the least and the impressions I give are rather favorable.

Ironically some of my closest friends today have told me that they thought I was unapproachable, intimidating and even seemed mean when first meeting me. I’m inclined to believe my friends are being the honest ones haha.

To be honest though, I’m not sure I care what impression I give people. It’s not mine to give. It’s theirs to form.

Tell me yours.

What’s the first impression you want to give people?

I know first impressions matter but I can’t find it anywhere in me to care.

Not even in situations where I SHOULD care, like first dates or interviews.

I dress accordingly and I let my seven personalities shine all at once and I just cross my fingers hoping someone likes at least one.

Just kidding (or am I?)

In all seriousness, Id like my first impression to be that of something, memorable. If I’m looking to make a good first impression I typically aim to evoke a particular feeling as they tend to have a more lasting effect than just what kind of shoes I had on.

I figure if I make someone have “good” feelings it’s likely:

A. They’ll remember me and/or

B. They’ll want to be around me again

I don’t think just because I dressed nice or gave them direct eye contact that’ll make me “stand out” it can enhance the impression but I think

First good feelings last longer.