Do you believe in fate/destiny?

If this question is asking if i believe there’s a predetermined plan or path for life no matter the choices someone makes, then that means I would have to believe something or someone is responsible for determining it so I’m inclined to say…

YES.

Maybe life is like CHOOSING to write a book in PERMANENT ink. While you can’t go back and erase what you’ve already wrote, you can always change the story at any given moment.

Do you need a break? From what?

I turned 31 this year (Jan.)🎉🥳

Every birthday I make it my business to escape everything momentarily to return to, me.

I leave work, I leave my kids, I leave my friends and other family.

I pick a place I’d like to visit, I buy my plane ticket and then I leave.

This year I picked Oregon. Why? Well, because it seemed like a place where I could find solace.

And, I was right.

My birthday is the only time of the year where I’m granted time away from everything and everyone and I don’t feel guilty about it.

I did all my favorite things and even tried some new things.

I went hiking to the most beautiful waterfall I’ve ever laid eyes on (as seen above). I got dressed up and went to a fancy dinner, I drove about 1.5 hour outside of where I was staying to build a terrarium with a 70 year old hippie, I visited the famous Japanese Gardens and then tried some of Portlands most delicious food and sweets. It was magical focusing only on what my heart desired.

If you could un-invent something, what would it be?

Easy.

Religion.

I assume the goal of it is to give people a moral compass, form and nurture a connection to source or God, build community and maybe even along the way figure out life’s purpose.

Im inclined to believe that it doesn’t take “faith” to teach people how to be decent people. It takes decent people to teach people how to be decent people. But perhaps no one wants the responsibility?

People who are only kind or “good” because a doctrine tells them to be OR ELSE…doesn’t sound like a genuinely kind person. It sounds like someone who has only been taught to fear the consequences rather than someone who has been guided by example.

Anyways, since there’s no way for me to tell you what kind of world we’d live in if it didn’t exist, I speculate it would either the same as it is now or better but definitely not worse.

Our moral and ethical framework would likely come from philosophy and humanism. Our community and social structures would possibly be constructed from our cultures and traditions. People would probably seek connection through alternative means by way of meditation or nature thus creating a profound inner standing of oneself AND deepening their connection to God or source because let’s not forget that we are created in ITS image.

Whatever the religion, the goal is seems to be consistent throughout in wanting to gain meaning understanding and connection. I can’t help but notice that the majority has yet to obtain neither.

What is your all time favorite automobile?

My favorite automobile is The ultimate driving machine of course. But since my salary would never allow me afford such car Acura is next in line as a favorite. They have great technology and it handles quite well for the kind of driver I am (fast, yet very calculated). Aside from that though I think they are very reliable and reasonably priced to be considered “luxury”.

What makes you feel nostalgic?

Chicago in the 90s went like:

Old school music, specifically Summer Madness the original or the remake with Fresh Prince, family, the smell of BBQ, the sound of bongos, flamin hot Cheetos with cheese, snow cones, now and later candy and pickles, ice cream truck, playing double Dutch, the lake front and driving Lake Shore Drive with all the windows down.

Describe a man who has positively impacted your life.

7 years.

7 years was all I got with my father before he transitioned. In 2001 he was murdered just down the street from our family home and he was the end of the list of men who left any sort of mark on my life.

Seven years somehow felt like an eternity and I think we spent it well. I developed the normal daddy’s girl relationship with him and there was nothing he wouldn’t do to protect or provide for me. He did both lovingly. He was funny, present and affectionate and there was no one in the world that mattered more to me than him.

But that all came to a a screeching halt when he decided 42 years was enough time for him to realize he had enough of this world. So he took a sharp left up out of here.

After him there was no one really. I had no men interested in staying or worth letting in.

SN: *I think I just learned where my fear of abandonment comes from*

Tell us about your first day at something — school, work, as a parent, etc.

I had awaken from what felt like a dream.

With sleep in my eyes, throbbing aches in my breast and a profound soreness in my vagina from the several stitches i had received to put back together what had been torn apart to birth a 9lbs wide shouldered baby- I carefully rolled over to see him wide eyed staring back at me.

It was just me and him.

We admired each other for while before he started demanding things of me. I panicked as I had never had a baby before. He was all mine and there was no one there to tell me what to do next.

I gently sat myself up on the bed, picked him up and placed him to my breast. It was was like a demonic vacuum attached it self to me and there was no “easy” way of getting him off so I sat there in pain layered in more pain while he nursed himself back asleep. I cried while he ate breakfast and in that moment I vowed to NEVER do it again.

…. I did it again 🙄

Beach or mountains? Which do you prefer? Why?

Mountains are something to look at in awe and appreciate from afar. So while I do enjoy gazing at them you will never find me on one. Nature is to be respected, not conquered.

As for my preferences, the forest will always have my heart and my playful spirit will always make time for the beach (a girlie like me must play mermaids when I’m near water🧜‍♀️)

Do you trust your instincts

This is an interesting question.

I believe humans are the only beings that resist trusting theirs fully, including me sometimes. Now, maybe not at first but I believe we gradually learn not to. Is that a bad thing? Meh, in my opinion, yes and no. I’ll explain why:

We are presumably the most “advanced” organism on the planet if you will. Rational analysis and information is needed to make a plethora of our day to day decisions in order to sustain and continue to advance.

Think about it.

As we go through life, instinct becomes less about needing to suck from our mothers breast to survive and more about “which direction should I go in life” or at least something along those lines which requires having said both information and the ability to rationalize.

Sone people make decisions solely based on those two things while others learn to balance using rational mind, information AND intuition.

I may not fully rely on my instincts but I sure do trust them.

What if people operated strictly off instinct? Which direction would humanity take?

What’s your favorite month of the year? Why?

This is a tough one but since I can, Im going list my four favorite months of the year.

January: Starting out as my first favorite month of the year is SOLEY due to it being my birthday month. This is an exciting time for one, I’m another year wiser and two, I get to spend it doing what makes my heart full- solo traveling.

October: Halloween, duh!

November: Weather is crisp and cozy. Thanksgiving, duh!

December: Blankets of snow that absorb sound; silence. Snowy hills for sledding and let’s not forget holiday movies. Christmas , duh!

The other months are a blur.