How do you manage screen time for yourself?

I don’t.

I am however, cautious of what I visually consume.

Should I manage how LONG I am visually consuming? Yes, probably.

Should others? Probably.

What will your life be like in three years?

Hello me in three years! 👋

I’m happy per my usual and I have learned to express when I am not. I am vulnerable in safe spaces and I now know how to cry when I need to. (Releasing was never a strong suit for me)

My relationship with my children is more healthier now than ever before and the bond is tight. I’ve mastered a new set of skills to demonstrate.

I developed financial literacy and Im a money saving queen with even more streams of income. I use coupons for everything I possible can. Being a minimalist suits me.

Speaking of money, I have a well thought out budget and I no longer worry about “not having enough” because I have built a cushion to withstand any unexpected blows.

Finally, I have gathered the confidence to go after my wildest dreams and the courage to never look back.

I am ready for what’s next !

Invent a holiday! Explain how and why everyone should celebrate.

I’d like to celebrate a holiday where random acts of kindness are given and received. A day where people purposefully go out their way to make someone else’s day. A day like this would increase the chances for everyone to experience some sort of act of kindness whether they’re use to it or not.

I’d call it “Kindaday”

You have three magic genie wishes, what are you asking for?

My initial thought would be to ask for all the powers the genie possessed that way I too would be able to grant wishes for people and we’d like, tag team granting wishes all Willy Nilly for folks but I decided reel my imagination back in today.

The sum of any wish I’ve ever had is…

Time.

I’d wish for anything that granted me more freedom, time and experience.

I can’t think of anything more valuable.

I’d be out here in this world loving, creating and experiencing the way I feel I was meant to.

What is your favorite form of physical exercise?

Ouuu, exercising is probably the only time I ever truly feel, sexy.

Does that sound weird?

Good.

Dancing and weight lifting are probably my favorite forms of physical exercise as they both make me feel powerful, sensual and beautiful.

There’s something about lifting heavy shit that boosts my confidence almost immediately. Testing my physical strength and occasionally going beyond what I thought I could do is a good dopamine hit for me.

&When I dance, I dance with intention and soul. It’s art engulfed in art and I feel so sexy doing it.

What major historical events do you remember?

26 Days after my father was murdered and 45 days after my cousin (best friend) transitioned from cancer.

9/11 happened.

I was home from school that day and I sat staring at the TV while my mother sobbed at the screen and the others conferred with each other.

What. The. Fuck

Was the common phrase tossed around back and forth.

So much death that year. It’s hard to forget.

My 7 year old heart could barely take it.

I think it may have been that year when I forced myself numb to keep from crumbling under the boulders of pain and utter confusion.

I was 7 when I learned to not feel because feeling hurt too bad and feeling required others to feel for you when they barely had space to. I could feel it.

“Too much feeling.”

“What do I do with these feelings? “

“Turn it OOOOFFFFF!”

“PLEEEEAAAASSE!“

“Finally.”

“Nothing.”

“Silence.”

My subconscious is where I packed those feelings away, safe and snug so they don’t bother us anymore.

Until my nervous system remembers.

What’s the biggest risk you’d like to take — but haven’t been able to?

In order:

I’d start with finding work that I can do from home to make a livable wage. Then I’d sale everything I own except for my clothes. I’d then take the proceeds from that and pack up and leave the states. I’d head straight to a Nordic country. Not sure why but those places have always had my heart. I’d start fresh and live the life I imagine for my children and I.

Though it would bring me joy to say “goodbye” to most people here including my family, my children would not feel the same so I stay and create the life I imagine here. For now.

What are you most proud of in your life?

I’m most proud of the woman I’m becoming. Mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually I have grown in tremendous ways.

I’m proud of me because despite given every reason to give up, I didn’t.

I don’t.

Instead I plant seeds that I consciously and consistently water.

Me staying steadfast in my personal growth has not only benefited me but the people who are and who chose to be apart of my life. My future partner will be grateful to know that I have cultivated happiness and that all he has to do is share it with me. My children have a mother who doesn’t force them to fight her demons because I’ve done the work to slay them on my own. They are free to flourish as I gently and unconditionally guide them on their journey. My mother has a daughter that’s able to hold her hand and help heal her childhood wounds because she never had the knowledge or support to be able to do it on her own. My friends have a friend who they can trust to intimately hold space for them, genuinely be proud of their accomplishments and support them. In me, I’ve created magic and I get to share it.

Some years ago I couldn’t fathom this sort of growth for myself and yet here I am.

I’ve grown to be exactly who I needed when I was growing up and I am incredibly proud of that.

What have you been working on?

My list is long but I’ll start short.

I’ve literally spent my entire adult life being financially illiterate and not giving an absolute F**k.

It’s been just me and my girl math side swiping curves and stopping for Starbucks with $2.37 in my account.

Bad girl, I know.

I’m not even sure how I’ve survived this long but for the longest I’ve had this strange sense of confidence that money finds its way back to me no matter what.

Since I’m always in a constant state of transformation recently, I’ve been forced to evaluate my relationship with money and my mindset surrounding it.

It has been a journey and while it only took a small (not small) financial fire to be lit under my ass to prompt me to get my stuff together I am grateful for it.

In a matter of few weeks I managed to completely change my spending behavior and become more serious about creating a budget, understanding my money and learning ways to make more money in less time. Nothing has been easy about this but I’v been enjoying pushing myself to new limits.

It turns out I did not have to trade my lab coat for body glitter and pumps. Instead I needed A LOT of discipline and a stronger desire to be financially in better space.

I truly am a force and I love that for me.

What’s something most people don’t know about you?

I’ll get straight to the point.

The most important part,

the thing most people don’t know but should know about me.

Arguably the only thing that matters

and that is:

I’m an Aquarius Sun ☀️

Virgo Moon 🌙

Aries Rising ⬆️

I’m sure all the astrology hating people are fuming at this but thats just too bad.

Tell me your sun sign so that I can quietly judge you from the comfort of my home.